Resolutions.

To make sure that I indeed write more this year, I looked for help. That’s a thing with getting older–sometimes I recognize that I cannot do everything on my own and I need help. Amidst all the reading I did, I found a list of 365 prompts. So there will be days this year that I turn to those prompts.

Days like today.

“Have you ever made a New Year’s Resolution that you kept?”

I’m not sure, to be honest.

I check in so often throughout the year, recalibrating my expectations and looking for places to grow. I make adjustments as I meet goals, or don’t meet goals, and try to just be as productive as possible.

Late in 2015, I realized I was spending way too much time mindlessly being online. I lacked purpose and focus. So I bought an app to help with both of those. It has helped, as every day I am constantly taking stock of how I’m spending my time.

So this year’s resolutiony word is Productive. I want to be productive this year in ways I haven’t yet.

We’ll see if I can keep that resolution.

 

New Year’s Thoughts: Some Free Advice.

Today in the Sunday School class I teach, we talked about New Year’s Resolutions. I am a sucker for a perceived clean slate. When the first day of a month begins on a Sunday or Monday, I feel an overwhelming need to “start over” in some realm of my life.

And every January 1, I feel that same “start over” need nipping at my heels. Start over with finances. Start over with diet and exercise. Start over with writing. Start over with prayer. Start over, start over, start over.

It’s overwhelming. And, some research suggests there’s not much success in making New Year’s Resolutions.

So if you, like me, can’t resist the promise of a clean slate that Friday will bring, here’s a couple of suggestions:

  1. Set a theme for the year that will govern your behaviors. I did this over the summer with the theme “discipline,” and it ended up being incredibly helpful. The theme should be one word–easy enough to recall when faced with a choice that might return you to habits you wanted to reduce.
  2. Set check-in times to assess how you’re doing. For me, I refocus in April, August, September, October, and December. Each month has special meaning for why I check in. Each month allows me time to figure out if I’m making progress in being a better person, and what course corrections might be necessary.
  3. Use the language: “I resolve to…” I stole this language from this post, because it’s so much stronger than the typical format used in making resolutions.

In the next five days, consider an alternative approach to New Year’s Resolutions. Goals are great, and I’m not minimizing their importance. But a paradigm shift in how to begin the clean slate of 2016 just might yield a happy new year after all.