Only four traits remain in analyzing the Wall Street Journal’s report of what men want in a wife. But only one is significant.
The first installment in this series can be found here.
Verdict: Principled is NOT the reason I’m not married.
I’m pretty sure my dad wants me to be sweet, even though the article suggests only 19% of fathers really wants their daughters to be sweet. More interesting is that sweetness in wives was only important to 34% of men. I’m not sure what that suggests…do men just expect women to be shrews? I think I’m less sweet now than I was 20 years ago. Too much heartbreak and an acute awareness of my own mortality has made me cynical in my old age. But I know I can be sweet when needed.
Verdict: Sweetness is NOT the reason I’m not married.
I’m certain I have this trait nailed. As an adviser, coach, and teacher, I wouldn’t be successful if I didn’t know how to be nurturing. I know how to take care of people. I’ve cared for nieces and nephews, my siblings, and my parents at different points in their lives. And when I think back to all my relationships, I’m positive I was nurturing. Whether it was encouraging this one that he could get certification for career advancement or helping this one manage some incredibly difficult life events, I have always known how to support and care for people.
Verdict: Nurturing ability is NOT the reason I’m not married.
To sum up, of six characteristics listed, still only two are possible reasons why I’m not married. The four remaining characteristics just might tip the balance…
Today I read this article from the Wall Street Journal.
Today I took a survey about the state of singles in the LDS church.
If I’m to believe at least four of the men I’ve dated, I’m not married because God told them to stop dating me. (Interesting article about that excuse here.)
If I believe my inner demons, I am not married because I do not now, nor have I ever, meet a physical ideal that many Mormon men think they deserve.
The real reason? Maybe ask every man I’ve dated in the past 25 years why I wasn’t worth marrying.
This question is offensive and ridiculous.
Hey. “We believe in being honest…” (see #13 here.) So I was.
I watched this short video last week about blame, and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. I’ve been doing a lot of blaming the past two weeks, none of it healthy. But first, some backstory.